THE SUBMISSIVE ASSISTANT

As mentioned in the marketing section, presenting yourself clearly and laying out your expectations for a sub approaching you is important, especially when it comes to tributes and payments.  A tribute is technically an offering given without any expectation of your time. You want to avoid subs sending you money expecting something when you have no intention of giving them your time in the manner they are hoping for. 

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To put it simply, if you want a certain amount of money for a set amount of your time - it's best to just say so.  Posting things like. "I don't do sessions, but if you send me a $50 Amazon GC I will maybe go on cam with you" is very confusing to potentials.  Be clear with potential subs what their options are to tribute you as well as what they can pay you for as an exchange to avoid unnecessary conflicts.

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Never accept Amazon Wishlist items as payment for a session.

It seems most new findoms get tricked by a sub ordering a ton of items off her wishlist while on cam only to have the sub cancel the order as soon as the call is over.  Until you trust a sub, do not even acknowledge that they bought an item from your wishlist until the gift is physically in your hands.  If they show you a receipt, simply tell them you consider it as if they have not tributed yet as you have not yet received anything.

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Be sure to keep your wishlist updated as items sitting unpurchased for 6 months can be a bad look or may not be available anymore.  Also, be mindful that your Wishlist is part of your brand as it gives subs an idea the type of things you want.  Wanting $300 heels gives a much different impression than wanting baby formula.  That is not to say essential / basic items can not be added to your Wishlist, but keep in mind the message it sends & be sure there is variety.

I do not pretend to be an expert in this area, but I know enough to tell you to be careful and do your own research.  Every payment site has Terms of Service, some of which (ie PayPal) prohibit the use of their service for anything adult related / sexual.  This is not the start of the "is a findom a sexworker" debate - you are for this purpose and they will seize your account.  While you may be able to use it for some time without issues, any bitter sub who reports you or an idiot putting a stupid comment on twitter could result in you losing the funds in your account.

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Other services like Square, CirclePay & GiftRocket (can turn to cash) seem popular & I have heard limited complaints, but I always suggest removing money from those accounts on a regular basis to limit the balance.  In general these sites are fine for trusted subs or you can even switch owned subs to using direct bank transfers, however for an initial tribute it is safer to use an adult supported method.

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Sites such as PervOutPay or one of the Clip Stores (I Want Clips has lowest %) are designed for and support payments to adult service providers.  While the percentage they take is not ideal, it is a safe option for new subs and you can later transition them to a no fee option once trust is established.

The great thing about gift cards is you can quickly claim the amount and have it in your account instantly.  Amazon gift cards are by far the most popular and can either be redeemed via email or subs can send you a code from a physical card for you to enter.  Once the funds show as part of your balance, there is nothing they can do to cancel, so you are good to go.  While some do not like Amazon's fashion choices or don't want as many heels as subs want to buy, you can easily use Amazon GCs for household items with their pantry service & they are starting grocery delivery in many areas.

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Many other sites have e gift cards as well as physical options at stores like CVS and Walgreens.  You can also usually find a local nail salon and spa that let subs order online gift certificates for you.